It’s a New Season

Have you ever felt like you were on the verge of something big? Perhaps it’s in your job situation or your schooling.

The decisions we make are like the paddles in an old-fashioned pinball game. Sometimes we swing and it propels us forward, scoring big. At other times, the paddle misses the ball and falls through, but we get back into the game all the wiser. We progress farther in the game of life, reaching new heights.”

It’s the same feeling I had when I was a single, 48-year-old virgin. I had a strong gut feeling that I was going to get married soon. 

But here’s the thing—I wasn’t dating anyone, and no one was on the horizon. However, my body, soul, and spirit believed it so deeply that I blurted it out loud at a retreat I was hosting for women. I declared, “I believe I’m going to be married within the year!” 

My mind believed it was going to happen, and that propelled me into action. I knew that “faith without works is dead” (James 2:17). So, I joined a gym and worked out five days per week. I read books about marriage and prepared to be a wife. For me, that included learning how to cook! (I figured my man would want to eat more than oatmeal and cereal.) 

Do you realize the power of your words? God created us in His image, and like Him, we create using our words. Something amazing happens when we activate our faith and belief. 

That’s exactly what happened to me. I believed that my man would find me, and he did. We were married in the year. From the time we started dating until we walked down the aisle was only four months!

However, we must remember that this power to create with our words exists whether our words evoke positive or negative thoughts. That’s why it’s so important to bring every word into captivity. We should train our minds to focus on the positive and think about “things that are true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8)

So, ladies, stop saying, “There are no good men out there,” or “I’ll never get married.” Instead, speak in faith, “My godly man is working on himself, and our paths will cross when we’re both ready. I will get married!”

(If you want to learn more about my story, purchase “Delayed Not Denied: How I Became My Best on My Journey to Love and Marriage.”)

Nothing Changes Until It Changes

Time to make a change!

Have you ever wanted something new in your life? Perhaps you have longed for something different for a while–a new career, a new car, or even a college degree.

I was 47 years old when I realized that if I wanted my circumstances to change; I needed to do something different. The change had to start with me.

What did I desire? Marriage. You see, although I dated and was once engaged, none of the relationships led to a trip to the altar. But at a hotel in upstate New York, a month after I turned 48, everything changed.

In a space with a wrought iron banister and a wood-burning fireplace surrounded by sparkling trees, I declared to a group of women that I would be married within the year. I conceived it, then I believed it, but I didn’t stop there. I moved into action.

I often say, “With momentum comes clarity.” That’s exactly what happened to me. Rather than “waiting” around for a man to come to my house. I put my belief into action:

  • Worked out at the gym
  • Got an orthodontist 
  • Saved money for a ceremony
  • Followed the promptings from the Lord

Determined to couple my faith with action, I positioned myself to receive what I desired. As author, Napoleon Hill states, “If we conceive it, and believe it, we can achieve it.” My faith-filled actions resulted in my being in the right place, at the right time, and ready to meet my soul mate.

  1. Now, fourteen years later, I am a “Single-to-Spouse Support Coach.” I work with saved single women to develop the skills to attract and marry the love of their lives. Through my biblically based coaching program, I equip my clients using a 4-STEPTM framework to become “kingdom” wives so they attract their spouses.

I invite you to think about an incremental change you can make in your life. What’s one thing you can do to bring about your desired transformation? Start today and invest in yourself. Remember, if nothing changes, nothing changes!