Are You Still Waiting on God?

How often have you tried to hear from the Lord, but His voice seems distant? You want desperately to please Him but are unsure of the right direction. You wonder if you are still waiting because God said, “No” or saying, “Not yet”? Regardless of what you are waiting for, many have experienced the same thing. The Bible provides us with scriptures to help us wait patiently on the Lord and to be of good courage as we wait.  

Remember, we serve a good father, and He does not withhold “good things” from His children. Psalm 84:11 (NLT) says, “For the Lord God is our sun and our shield. He gives us grace and glory. The Lord will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right.”

There are, however, times when we must wait for the right season. We must ignite our faith and believe that the Lord is aligning us with His perfect timing. Anchor your faith in waiting on God scriptures like Habakkuk 2:3 (NLT). This vision is for a future time. It describes the end, and it will be fulfilled. If it seems slow in coming, wait patiently, for it will surely take place. It will not be delayed.

A natural question is, what causes God to delay in giving us what we ask for? Sometimes our actions are the culprit. Perhaps we sinned. This was the case in Isaiah 59:1-2 (NLT). Listen! The Lord’s arm is not too weak to save you, nor is his ear too deaf to hear you call. It’s your sins that have cut you off from God. Because of your sins, he has turned away and will not listen anymore.

Wrong motives may also be at the root. James tells us, that “when you ask, you don’t get it because your motives are all wrong—you want only what will give you pleasure.” (James 4:3 NLT). 

Yet, there are times when it is a spiritual battle. Like Job, God is allowing us to be tested, or the Lord wants to refine our faith. Paul talked about this struggle in his second letter to the Corinthians. He said, “[T]o keep me from becoming proud, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from Satan to torment me and keep me from becoming proud. Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away. Each time he said, ‘My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.’ So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses so that the power of Christ can work through me.

Stay encouraged, knowing that God has a plan for your life. Trust Him to reveal it in due season. Remember, God is working for your good. So, my sister, be of good courage and wait on the  Lord.

How Can I Let Him Know I’m Interested?

Now that you are ready to date, how do you get started? In the words of Latteras Whitfield, “Men should pursue and not persuade. Women should present and not pursue.” What does this look like for women?

Throughout history, women have expressed interest in potential suitors in a variety of ways, including the age-old practice of dropping a handkerchief to capture a man’s attention. In this blog let’s explore the Christian perspective on showing attraction and discover how present-day Christians can approach romantic relationships.

1. Trust God’s Design:

In Christian relationships, it is crucial to trust in God’s divine design for romance. God created men and women with distinct roles and purposes. As women, we are called to present ourselves with dignity and grace, allowing men to take the lead in pursuing a relationship. However, society often pushes us to take the reins into our own hands to make that connection happen. I believe our femininity is a powerful tool in letting the man know we are open to the possibilities. Some may feel this attitude will lead to being a “trad wife”. I’ve found that this trust in God’s design brings harmony and fosters a deeper connection built on faith.

Bible Verse: Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.“

2. Rely on God’s Timing:

The belief that the Lord may not come when we want Him to, but he’s always on time is the basis of Christian romantic relationships. Instead of pushing or manipulating situations, we are called to wait patiently for God to orchestrate the right timing for a relationship to unfold. By focusing on personal growth and aligning ourselves with God’s will, we can cultivate a heart of contentment and readiness. However, faith without works is dead. We have to DO our part.

Bible Verse: Ecclesiastes 3:1 – “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”

3. Express Interest with Grace:

While the historical practice of dropping a handkerchief is no longer prevalent in modern times, we can still express interest respectfully and gracefully. By being approachable, friendly, and engaging in meaningful conversations, we can create opportunities for connection without crossing the line of pursuing. This approach demonstrates our genuine interest and allows men to take the lead.

Bible Verse: Colossians 4:6 – “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt so that you may know how to answer everyone.“

What are some modern ways to “Drop Your Handkerchief”?

In today’s context, there are concrete ways women can signal their interest to potential suitors without taking on the role of pursuer. Here are a couple:

  • Show genuine interest by actively listening and engaging in conversations. Ask thoughtful questions, show empathy, and demonstrate a willingness to understand the person you’re interested in.
  • Smile and maintaining eye contact can convey openness and receptiveness. These simple gestures can catch someone’s attention and create a positive impression.
  • Seek opportunities to participate in activities or events where you share common interests. This can create a natural connection and provide a platform for further interaction and potential pursuit.
  • Demonstrate kindness, support, and encouragement to the person you’re interested in. Show that you genuinely care about their well-being and success without crossing the boundaries of pursuit.
  • Comment and like their posts on social media pages. Show them you are interested in and value what they have to say.

As Christians, it is important to approach romantic relationships with a solid foundation rooted in our faith. Embracing God’s design, trusting His timing, expressing interest with grace, and using modern ways of “dropping your handkerchief” can help us initiate relationships that honor God and allow His perfect plan to unfold. By surrendering our desires to Him and following His principles, we can experience the blessings of a Christ-centered and purposeful romantic relationship.

Bible Verse: Psalm 37:4 – “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.“

Now it’s your turn. How do men pursue, women present? How do YOU let someone know you are interested in them? Let me know in the comments your Christian dating tips.

5 Keys for Attracting and Finding Love God’s Way

Unlock Your Heart With These 5 Keys

Last Sunday, on Single Sister Sundays, I shared the importance of opening up to the possibility of love. But as a successful, single, Christ follower, in a world that tells you to show your boobs, go to a club, and have sex on the first night to catch a man, you may wonder how to attract and marry the love of your life God’s way. Believe me, you are not alone. Even if this information is not for you, read this article, share it, and then teach it to the singles in your life.

We must live according to God’s principles. By adopting a Christ-centered approach and incorporating these five keys into our lives, we can align our heart’s desires with God’s plan and manifest a loving, fulfilling relationship. Then, as the psalmist says, we can have the desires of our heart (Psalm 37:4-5)

1. Cultivate Self-Love:

The first key to attracting your ideal mate is to cultivate self-love. Embrace your worthiness and recognize the unique qualities that make you special. Prioritize self-care, nurture your passions and talents, and invest in personal growth. When you radiate self-love, you become a magnet for a partner who will cherish and appreciate you.

2. Clarify Your Vision:

Reflect on what you truly want in a relationship. Define your values, goals, and non-negotiables. Create a clear vision of what your ideal mate embraces, from their character traits to shared spiritual beliefs. Trust by combining love and spirituality, and aligning your vision and purpose, that God will bring the right person into your life.

3. Cherish Your Relationship with the Lord:

A thriving relationship with the Lord lays the foundation for a healthy partnership. Dedicate time to prayer and fasting. Seek His guidance, and surrender your desires to His will. Remember, this is a divine partnership. As you deepen your spiritual connection, you invite God to lead you on the path toward a Christ-centered relationship.

4. Commit to Authenticity and Vulnerability:

Authenticity and vulnerability are essential in attracting your ideal mate. Be true to yourself and embrace your authenticity. Share your joys, struggles, and dreams with others, including the Lord. Opening your heart and being vulnerable creates a space for genuine connections and paves the way for a deep and meaningful relationship.

5. Choose to Trust God’s Timing:

Patience is key in attracting your ideal mate. Trust that God’s timing is perfect, and He knows what is best for you. Use this time to focus on your personal growth. Always pursue your passions and continue to strengthen your relationship with God. I’m a witness that His timing is perfect. He will bring the right person into your life at the right moment. Remember, delayed doesn’t mean denied!

Trust me when I say you can attract and marry your ideal mate. It is within your reach. To summarize, you can set the stage for a beautiful love story by incorporating these five keys:

  1. Cultivating self-love
  2. Clarifying your vision
  3. Cherishing your relationship with God 
  4. Committing to authenticity and vulnerability
  5. Choosing to trust in His timing

Stay faithful to your journey. Lean into your faith and know that God is with you every step of the way as you manifest the loving, Christ-centered relationship you desire. I’m praying for you too.

~ Dr. Paula C. Perez