Are You Still Waiting on God?

How often have you tried to hear from the Lord, but His voice seems distant? You want desperately to please Him but are unsure of the right direction. You wonder if you are still waiting because God said, “No” or saying, “Not yet”? Regardless of what you are waiting for, many have experienced the same thing. The Bible provides us with scriptures to help us wait patiently on the Lord and to be of good courage as we wait.  

Remember, we serve a good father, and He does not withhold “good things” from His children. Psalm 84:11 (NLT) says, “For the Lord God is our sun and our shield. He gives us grace and glory. The Lord will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right.”

There are, however, times when we must wait for the right season. We must ignite our faith and believe that the Lord is aligning us with His perfect timing. Anchor your faith in waiting on God scriptures like Habakkuk 2:3 (NLT). This vision is for a future time. It describes the end, and it will be fulfilled. If it seems slow in coming, wait patiently, for it will surely take place. It will not be delayed.

A natural question is, what causes God to delay in giving us what we ask for? Sometimes our actions are the culprit. Perhaps we sinned. This was the case in Isaiah 59:1-2 (NLT). Listen! The Lord’s arm is not too weak to save you, nor is his ear too deaf to hear you call. It’s your sins that have cut you off from God. Because of your sins, he has turned away and will not listen anymore.

Wrong motives may also be at the root. James tells us, that “when you ask, you don’t get it because your motives are all wrong—you want only what will give you pleasure.” (James 4:3 NLT). 

Yet, there are times when it is a spiritual battle. Like Job, God is allowing us to be tested, or the Lord wants to refine our faith. Paul talked about this struggle in his second letter to the Corinthians. He said, “[T]o keep me from becoming proud, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from Satan to torment me and keep me from becoming proud. Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away. Each time he said, ‘My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.’ So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses so that the power of Christ can work through me.

Stay encouraged, knowing that God has a plan for your life. Trust Him to reveal it in due season. Remember, God is working for your good. So, my sister, be of good courage and wait on the  Lord.

Nothing Changes Until It Changes

Time to make a change!

Have you ever wanted something new in your life? Perhaps you have longed for something different for a while–a new career, a new car, or even a college degree.

I was 47 years old when I realized that if I wanted my circumstances to change; I needed to do something different. The change had to start with me.

What did I desire? Marriage. You see, although I dated and was once engaged, none of the relationships led to a trip to the altar. But at a hotel in upstate New York, a month after I turned 48, everything changed.

In a space with a wrought iron banister and a wood-burning fireplace surrounded by sparkling trees, I declared to a group of women that I would be married within the year. I conceived it, then I believed it, but I didn’t stop there. I moved into action.

I often say, “With momentum comes clarity.” That’s exactly what happened to me. Rather than “waiting” around for a man to come to my house. I put my belief into action:

  • Worked out at the gym
  • Got an orthodontist 
  • Saved money for a ceremony
  • Followed the promptings from the Lord

Determined to couple my faith with action, I positioned myself to receive what I desired. As author, Napoleon Hill states, “If we conceive it, and believe it, we can achieve it.” My faith-filled actions resulted in my being in the right place, at the right time, and ready to meet my soul mate.

  1. Now, fourteen years later, I am a “Single-to-Spouse Support Coach.” I work with saved single women to develop the skills to attract and marry the love of their lives. Through my biblically based coaching program, I equip my clients using a 4-STEPTM framework to become “kingdom” wives so they attract their spouses.

I invite you to think about an incremental change you can make in your life. What’s one thing you can do to bring about your desired transformation? Start today and invest in yourself. Remember, if nothing changes, nothing changes!

5 Keys for Attracting and Finding Love God’s Way

Unlock Your Heart With These 5 Keys

Last Sunday, on Single Sister Sundays, I shared the importance of opening up to the possibility of love. But as a successful, single, Christ follower, in a world that tells you to show your boobs, go to a club, and have sex on the first night to catch a man, you may wonder how to attract and marry the love of your life God’s way. Believe me, you are not alone. Even if this information is not for you, read this article, share it, and then teach it to the singles in your life.

We must live according to God’s principles. By adopting a Christ-centered approach and incorporating these five keys into our lives, we can align our heart’s desires with God’s plan and manifest a loving, fulfilling relationship. Then, as the psalmist says, we can have the desires of our heart (Psalm 37:4-5)

1. Cultivate Self-Love:

The first key to attracting your ideal mate is to cultivate self-love. Embrace your worthiness and recognize the unique qualities that make you special. Prioritize self-care, nurture your passions and talents, and invest in personal growth. When you radiate self-love, you become a magnet for a partner who will cherish and appreciate you.

2. Clarify Your Vision:

Reflect on what you truly want in a relationship. Define your values, goals, and non-negotiables. Create a clear vision of what your ideal mate embraces, from their character traits to shared spiritual beliefs. Trust by combining love and spirituality, and aligning your vision and purpose, that God will bring the right person into your life.

3. Cherish Your Relationship with the Lord:

A thriving relationship with the Lord lays the foundation for a healthy partnership. Dedicate time to prayer and fasting. Seek His guidance, and surrender your desires to His will. Remember, this is a divine partnership. As you deepen your spiritual connection, you invite God to lead you on the path toward a Christ-centered relationship.

4. Commit to Authenticity and Vulnerability:

Authenticity and vulnerability are essential in attracting your ideal mate. Be true to yourself and embrace your authenticity. Share your joys, struggles, and dreams with others, including the Lord. Opening your heart and being vulnerable creates a space for genuine connections and paves the way for a deep and meaningful relationship.

5. Choose to Trust God’s Timing:

Patience is key in attracting your ideal mate. Trust that God’s timing is perfect, and He knows what is best for you. Use this time to focus on your personal growth. Always pursue your passions and continue to strengthen your relationship with God. I’m a witness that His timing is perfect. He will bring the right person into your life at the right moment. Remember, delayed doesn’t mean denied!

Trust me when I say you can attract and marry your ideal mate. It is within your reach. To summarize, you can set the stage for a beautiful love story by incorporating these five keys:

  1. Cultivating self-love
  2. Clarifying your vision
  3. Cherishing your relationship with God 
  4. Committing to authenticity and vulnerability
  5. Choosing to trust in His timing

Stay faithful to your journey. Lean into your faith and know that God is with you every step of the way as you manifest the loving, Christ-centered relationship you desire. I’m praying for you too.

~ Dr. Paula C. Perez

From Red Flag to Love Brags

Have you ever noticed how, after you buy a new car, you see that car everywhere? We call this frequency illusion or bias the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon. The reality is the same number of cars were on the road before you purchased your car; you just paid them no attention. This phenomenon occurs with everything: words, names, houses, fashion, and more. 

You don’t believe me? Let’s put this to the test. Take a minute and look around the space that you’re in. Pay attention to the red items. How many red things do you count in the space? Did you notice these items before I asked you to look? Chances are, you did not.

Now, let’s think about this in terms of the characteristics we look for in individuals, especially if we are Christian dating over 40. How does our perception of people influence how we feel about them?

Most of us look for the “red flags” in relationships. How do I know? Think about the number of people you’ve heard say, “There are no good available men.” or “All the women are hoochie mammas.” 

What if, instead, we put the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon to the test in our relationships? What if we choose to look for the amazing qualities we desire rather than focusing on potential red flags? We attend to the qualities and characteristics that we want instead of what we don’t want. What do you think you will start seeing?

I challenge you in this next week, to put this relationship tip to the test. Then let me know how it works out by emailing me at info@drpaulacperez.com.

Perception is a powerful tool. By approaching faith-based dating in this way, we will open up new possibilities. Putting a boundary around our negative thoughts will allow us to see more good. Let’s transform our relationships by focusing on the positive. Then watch how your relationships become more satisfying, joyful, and fulfilling.

Take advantage of my free, 30-minute “Ignite Love” Discovery Call. Schedule it today. ~ Dr. Paula

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Dr. Paula C. Perez is an educator, author, speaker, and coach dedicated to empowering single women of faith to love and embrace themselves in this season as they prepare for the next. Dr. Paula draws from her 49-year experience as a never-married, sexless single. The lessons she learned on her journey to love and marriage developed her 4-STEP ® framework. These keys help singles unlock their love and so much more.